What little things did you do to start being more helpful around the house or to your partner?

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1. For the chores she does, we split 50/50. The chores that I do, I do 100%. I’m with the kids a lot more than she is. It’s hardly fair.

2. Stop looking at it as “being helpful”, which implies it’s all her job, and take ownership of everything yourself. When you see something that needs to be done just go do it.

3. A common complaint is that men are really good at the execution stage (tell us what to do and we’ll get it done), but sometimes forget about the previous stages: conceiving things and planning them.

   So, maybe try that: Do more conceptual and planning work. Think of activities to do and book them, keep track of birthdays or special events and come up with something for the day, plan a deep clean for one room in the house. You can also think if there are some tasks you can own end to end and remove that mental load from your wife.