How would you feel if your partner wanted to use surrogacy for a baby in order to avoid the toll and risks of pregnancy for you?

8 comments

1. That’s fucked up.

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3. As a hypothetical, yeah no, I’d tap out of any relationship where a guy viewed women like that and was happy to treat one as a rentable incubator to preserve my body.

   Holy misogynistic clusterfuck Batman.

4. I would feel happy, mostly because I’m afraid of the health risks associated with pregnancy: UTI’s, high blood pressure, increased chance of blood clots, and post-partum depression.
   But if they only wanted a surrogate so that a I wouldn’t gain weight or have stretch marks/C-section scars, I think that would be a red flag, and a sign that they only see me as an object.

5. This is my ideal situation

6. I don’t want kids, so that would be a no from me.

7. No way. I want to enjoy every part of motherhood, including pregnancy. Watching another woman go through that instead would be heartbreaking for me.

   If I find out I can’t when the time comes, we’ll adopt instead.

8. If I was going to make this decision to have a child, I’d want to do the whole thing myself. If I could not do that, I’d adopt one instead.