How to rekindle romance?

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1. Work fewer hours and lower the stress levels in your life.

2. Actually, I think it is very possible to maintain loving romantic relationship with any schedule. Romance depends on many small but persistent things you do for each other. Send each other a random SNS how much you love each other, how lucky you are to have each other. The man can buy flowers once in a while maybe on weekend. Get your wife a breakfast in bed also on weekend if you don’t have time on week days. Go for a walk together again on weekend if you are absolutely busy on week days.

3. Prioritize time for the two of you. Schedule it! Touch base every night to talk, even for 5 minutes of connection. Look up The Gottmans for ideas on love mapping, making time, etc.

   You can do it with hectic work if the two of iou prioritize it outside of work.

4. We all find ourselves stuck in the grind. You want it fresh and exciting? That’s on you two. No one else is going to make it happen.

   There are two key concepts to help on that which I’d like to pass along, and [I put them in this comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/usd52a/people_in_happy_marriages_give_me_your_top_tip_to/i931q2u/) not too long ago.

   Experts say that couples should have weekly or biweekly family business meetings. You go over the budget and finances, meal plans, kid events, projects, upcoming events, vacation plans, home and car maintenance–*and the marriage itself*. How is it going? What happened that was great? What can we improve? How do we feel? Yes, literally talk about the relationship.

   Like what do we talk about? We have [tons of great resources in this sub’s wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/wiki/index): books, articles, videos, even online services and mobile apps to learn from, talk about and help you in your marriage.