So i’ve (18 m) had a FWB (18 F) for about 4 months now where she started this whole thing, and we’ve got really close she opened up a lot to me but i heven’t, because i’m afraid i’ll get really attached to her. But the way seh talks to me is like i’m her boyfriends, the way we act around each other is like we are dating, I reciprocatet that by saying the same corny stuff couples do but in the end in my mind I keep repeating to myself how fake all this is. Does she really mean that? Is she just saying that for attention? I shouldn’t develop any feels at all, she gave many red flags in the past before, and is not my type of girl at all, shes cute sure but looks is not everything… Then why am I feeling like this I don’t understand, i know I don’t a crush on her, but I keep thinking about her throughout the day, I don’t understand. The only thing I can think that is making me act the way I am is because she is my first time i’ve gotten this far with a girl. But I don’t think that shuld be a reason. I just don’t know why i’m feeling like and it’s just so frustrating.
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People will say, “sex is just sex”, but it really isn’t. You’re doing something very intimate with someone. I’m not saying you’re in love, but you have to have some basic feelings of attraction if you’re having consensual sex. You said right at the beginning of your post that y’all have got “really close” … I mean there it is. You’re fucking, you’re doing couples stuff, you say you act like you’re dating, and you wonder why you’re feeling like this?
One of the purposes of physical intimacy is to create and strengthen emotional bonds. You can’t be intimate and just tell yourself to not get feelings, that’s not how your monkey brain works.
FWB is always a bad idea because one or both eventually develop feelings and get hurt.
Either make it official or break it off and move on before the feelings get even stronger and you end up with someone you’re not compatible with.