I suppose this is partly a spouse appreciation post, but I offer it mostly as a suggestion for couples who have trouble finding time for sex and intimacy in their busy lives, as my wife and I have occasionally experienced. This is a 10 minute connection experience that has done wonders for us, and I’m hoping it may help others too.
It’s essentially a one-sided attention session, where one of you may not be in the mood while the other is. Last night was my turn to receive, but it works both ways for us once in a while. Essentially, I will undress completely and lie on my back on the bed, head slightly propped up so I can see her as she sits between my legs facing me, each of my legs sort of sprawling across her knees on either side of her.
She will touch me softly, with nails and fingertips, from chest to toes, as we talk about our days. The good, the bad, just anything that pops into our heads. She’ll avoid the most private areas at first, focusing on chest and stomach and thighs and backs of knees and whatever sensitive spots I’m feeling that day. Then, eventually she will touch me in more sensitive spots, far upper thighs and pubic areas and the upper crease of my thighs, still staying away from (but teasing) the goods, as we keep talking (although it becomes hard for me to concentrate!).
When she finally does touch me, it’s soft and gentle and almost not sexual, caressing me softly in a gentle way. It’s wildly connecting and erotic. She will usually sprinkle in a sexual thought or feeling or something she recently noticed (from tame to very naughty) at this point to set the stage for the final phase, and by that time I’m reeling. She’ll finish me by hand or mouth or whatever seems right in the moment. And then it’s done! We kiss and that’s it, and her turn is next (usually next day).
10 minutes! It’s truly remarkable what this can accomplish. Highly recommend you try this if you’re looking for ways to connect in busy times.