I (22f) found this guy (25m) on bumble, have met him thrice over a span of two months. It’s hot and cold with him. We are a bit flirty on text but nothing that would indicate that this guy would 100% want to make me his gf. I thought he might want to hook up and I was chill with that, but he has not made any physical advances yet. Not irl or on text. He tells me he prefers cuddles.
We take hours and hours to text back. I am also guilty of replying late to texts, as much as this guy is. He meets other girls, he has hinted it a few times. I think I might fall for him if we talk more because he’s exactly the kind of person i’d see a future with, but im not sure how to ask him what he’s exactly looking for. I don’t want to waste my time or be not valued in a situation like this, since I think ample time has passed.
Any clues on 1. How I could bring up this conversation?
2. What do you think he’s trying to do here?
Idk of it helps but he’s way mature than me, has a good job while I’m still in college and I have an anxious attachment style.
Tl•Dr: guy keeps meeting me but won’t make any moves not give me any hint as to what he’s looking for.
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Firstly you need to decide what YOU want, not from him specifically but in general. Is it a BF, FWB or attention?
Then be confident and straight up ask him what he’s looking for or where he sees this going. If his answer aligns with yours, great tell him (as long as he’s not lying).
If it doesn’t: CUT HIM OFF. You don’t owe this guy anything, and honestly if he was into you, you would know by now.
Easy come easy go bye bye.