Okay so when me and my bf first met the chemistry was crazy and we could have sex for at least 3 hours or often longer. He’d love looking into my face and was vocal/giving. However I’ve noticed as of recently he can only last less than 10 minutes maybe 5 and can’t go another round. He’s still attentive but quiet now as well and tends to go straight into the activity with little foreplay(maybe too eager IDK). Of course he’s always happy to initiate or plan sexy times. Everything else in the relationship is good and he is still very nice to me. We plan dates regularly and he is still very physically affectionate. I just don’t understand men and there sexual tendencies as he is my first. Could anyone explain what’s going on? And before anyone says it yes he still masterbates like he did before the start of the relationship😭 (I heard masterbation makes guys to last longer bc they aren’t as sensitive)
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my first question is, can he make you cum, if no then I understand that you’re not satisfied, and you should maybe talk to him about it, bring some toys into the scene. I think that he lasted longer in the beginning was caused by stress, now he is comfortable, maybe even more excited, so he finished quickly
Lasting longer when new to a relationship is different for a lot of guys. Some will last longer due to nervousness. Some don’t last due to the newness and hotness of the moments. It can vary from guy to guy.
You need to tell him you want more foreplay and not to rush into PIV.
I don’t think any of what you posted means he is not attracted to you any more. A lot of relationships go through a honeymoon phase when the start. One thing I heard was you could take a penny and put it in a jar every time you had sex in the first year. Then take a penny out every time you had sex after that and the jar would never empty. I don’t think that is entirely accurate but it does show that the passion tends to slow down.
Other things to look at is has his physical health changed? Gained weight, gotten covid, etc. Alcohol use up? Life stresses can cause sexual changes as well.
Don’t forget to look at what may have changed on your side as well.
It seems to be rare for men to have good control over how long they last, I think alot of it comes down to habit and nerves. I’ve experienced the same with a partner who was really nervous and just couldn’t get there at first, he eventually was able to finish when he was less nervous and more able to relax and enjoy himself. If anything I think he’s becoming more comfortable and enjoying sex more. I prefer nervous men who last too long than nervous men who cum instantly. I’d say 5 to 10- minutes is about average.