I 16f have a sort of relationship with this guy 16m and it’s getting sexual very fast. We are both insanely attracted to eachother and we’ve been talking a lot about sex but I am really scared about it hurting
We haven’t done too much yet so I know it’s not something I need to worry about for a bit but he’s pretty big and I can’t even fit 2 fingers inside myself
I know people say lube but as I said we are 16, no clue where we can get that from and neither of us look particularly old for our age or have older siblings/friends who we could feel comfortable asking for it.
When the time comes I’m willing to try it I don’t even know if it will fit and whilst I’d be willing to put through some of the pain for him like what if it doesn’t even fit?? I really wanna have sex w him eventually but like if it’s physically impossible then wtf do we do. I’ve brought this up to him and he said we can try but he doesn’t wanna hurt me and he would never pressure me to do anything
Also mods I saw a post saying age doesn’t matter as long as you follow the guidelines so I hope this is all good to post, I’m just looking for advice and have no one I’m comfortable asking irl
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Walmart sells lube.
If you’re not sure, DONT DO IT. Your body is telling you not to so listen to it. If you can’t even buy lube, you can’t buy condoms or talk about birth control/safe sex options either. Wait until you’re older and if he truly loves you and respects you, he’ll wait. If not, you’ll see his true intentions and you can dump him.
Hello
It sounds like you’re in the UK, you can buy lube from ASDA & Tesco (Waitrose too)
Buy condoms too, I personally like Skyn brand, as they transfer heat a lot better, and for me that helps sex feel better (and less like being prodded by something foreign)
Sex your first time shouldn’t hurt, and if it does hurt, stop. Don’t feel bad, don’t think it’ll get better, just stop. There’s nothing saying you can’t try again, but take it slow if you’re in pain.
He should be focused on your pleasure first and foremostf you’re capable of achieving orgasms, you two should be focusing on making eachother climax without PIV sex. Get comfortable coming together (if you can, I recognize not all women can)
Penetrative sex felt like a lot of pressure my first time, it wasn’t painful, there were moments it was uncomfortable, and foreign feeling, and little hints that it might be ok. I had my partner stop when I had had enough (he didn’t finish) he was brilliant about stopping too. Don’t expect that you’ll be able to ‘take it’ for ages. Depending on his nerves, he may not climax at all, or he might climax very quickly.
Communicate with eachother. Don’t be afraid to say when something feels good, and more importantly when something feels bad. You have to completely trust that his intentions are to make you feel good, and that his objective is a mutually enjoyable experience.