She made a huge scene in front of the kids when I told her my sister bought me a plane ticket to surprise my parents because they hadn’t seen me in a while.
She threw a fit but when I called her the next day she was just fine.
What would be the nature of this?
I’ve also noticed when we argue she cries and acts upset but then after I leave and come back in a few minutes later she’s as happy as can be
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I’d guess that she’s reacting, and then takes the time to process and comes to terms with it. It’s a little bit childish but it’s genuine.
If it bothers you, talk to her about it. You could ask if there is anything you can do to help her in the moments of frustration, or request that she try to process things privately before she reacts.
I think your sister up and saying “hey I bought you a ticket” is odd. Travel should be discussed before plans are set
Maybe a control thing?
Do you live with your wife? Was your wife aware of the surprise? Are you all going? Does your sister like your wife? So much information is missing. In general, flying out of town for a few days without discussing with your wife especially when you also have kids is a crappy move unless its part of your job that you signed up for. Its inconsiderate.
Overwhelmed wife? She gets to watch the kids without help while you take a vacation that you just sprang on her without taking her into consideration? I’m just guessing.
You probably know the answer if you’re honest with yourself.
How much notice did you get about it? How much notice did you give your wife?
I’d yell at my husband too if he got a surprise plane ticket from his sister without my knowledge and was leaving me alone to tend to the kids without a discussion first!
He’s married to me, NOT his family.
Nothing like watching your spouse just skip off like they have no other responsibilities but their own happiness. Did you even discuss this with her? Are you under the impression that your life is all about you exclusively?
Sometimes my husband and I fight, but life goes on and even though I still don’t like what he did, you can’t just hang on to that anger forever or until you get your way. Sometimes you’re mad, but you just try to get over, especially when you have kids etc, it even if you’re still not happy about it.
I had this happened to me a few years ago. I told her that she wasted her money and should’ve contacted my wife first. My sister and her husband don’t have a terrific marriage because of their lack of communication. She assume I would be in the same situation. Far from the truth.