I’ve known this girl for 3.5 years, we met through Instagram and have been very good friends since.
I’ve liked her for about a year, but never told her, and casually dated during the period.
I’ve decided I want to go for her.
Background: we didn’t speak for 3 months due to a fight, and again for 1.5, but she kept checking up on me and repaired our bond.
After a recent fight, I told her I really liked her. She replied that she wants to meet.
We meet, but we didn’t mention the message at all. She said meeting was intellectually stimulating.
She mentioned about the guys she had spoken with and what had happened, made fun of them together.
We’ve been chatting pretty much for hours, have playlists together and share a prime too.
After the message, she’s been more keen to meet in person that before, and calls me up without asking too.
Is that a sign she’s into me, but wants to take it slow?
TL:DR: how to proceed with winning a girl you’ve known for a long time.
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Sounds like deep into friend zone. Either she wants you or not. I would confront her and either be with her or move on. Good luck
A woman who is into you isn’t going to talk about other guys with you and if she’s talking to *you* about other guys, she’s probably talking *about* you with other guys.
Ask her out, then you have your answer.
First of all, people don’t “win” each other.
Second of all: it seems pretty clear to me that she’s not interested.
I mentioned other guys to my friend (now bf of 5 years) in the beginning because I wanted to gauge how he felt, if he’d say hey! I like you! Eventually I got it out of him. Just ask her, then you’ll know