Hey! 25F here. I have really struggled with anal play. I love it but I can’t seem to hold any toys in. I have gone slow with fingers and toys. No matter what I try, I can’t seem to keep even a butt plug in.
I get mild pain and cramping and whatever is inside me comes out. Even if I get to a point where I’m relaxed.
Does anyone have any advice or possible reasons why I can’t keep anything in my ass?
Thanks!
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Try beads, maybe?
Lube is key for safe and pleasurable anal masturbation. Use lots and use the right one. Also, don’t forget to pace yourself: start with fingers, then plug, then anything else you want.
A couple things. Plenty of lube is number one. Do you have a hefty vibrator? If not you need to get one. If you can get crafty with one hand, get yourself a g-spot vibrator and a magic wand so you can absolutely buzz the hell out of your pussy before moving on to anal. If this still doesn’t work, maybe set up a day where you hit the chiropractor for an alignment of your spine and then a body massage at a massage parlor. Get home, take a hot bath with candles and arousing to you music. At this point you should basically be the Buddha in zenness and relaxation. Then masturbate until you cum once or twice. Take a break in between if you need to but make a day and night out of it. Once you’re able to get the first object in your butt, you’re able to do it again and again and again. An anal dildo with a narrowed tip might also be another toy to try too. Keep in mind that medications you may be on can affect your anxiety and overall mood, which will most definitely affect how relaxed you can get.