My (32M) girlfriend (37F) is fighting with someone. The premuse of the fight i feel is justified, this other woman has been harrassing and bullying her. Now today my partner said something to this woman that provoked a response and a pretty harsh exchange ensued. I want to support my partner but how can i in this instance when i don’t agree with what she did?
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So you just want your gf to put up with verbal abuse forever?
Trying to program her to tolerate you doing the same or something?
Be curious and use active listening skills and empathetic guessing (google for specifics) to understand her reasoning. Then if you can empathize with her, validate her so she feels understood. If you struggle to do that still, then google how to validate when you disagree and try that.
Need more context for a legitimate response.