The guy I’m sleeping with told me that he likes being objectified. This isn’t something I’ve done before so I asked more questions about what he likes to hear and he told me a few phrases. I want to follow through with this, but I wonder if saying the exact phrases he told me might feel too rehearsed. Conversely, I say a phrase that neither of us has mentioned before and he feels uncomfortable. Could someone suggest a rule of thumb I might use while deciding which phrases to use?
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Give me a couple of example phrases he laid on you. I’m not 100% sure what he means here, or what it stems from.
EZ one,,,,,, when you think of him sexually, only think of him as a sexual object rather then a person with feelings, as if he’s just a dildo for you to use and please yourself with.
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This cock will do
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This pussy needs a mouth
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Gonna use that hard cock to get myself off
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Think of the sexual experience one sided, for your pleasure only in a sense. You do what you want to that dildo that’s laying on the bed ready to be put to use :).
I’m pleased that you’re here asking that question, and I hope I can help a bit.
It would help to know a bit about how he asked to be objectified, there are a lot of perspectives to come from here.
Does he want to be treated as an inanimate object of beauty?
A well designed sex toy?
A prized pet/slave?
Does he want an ego boost?
Or confirmation of your attraction to him?
Many men rarely receive compliments, and our cultures propensity for body-shaming just as hard for men who’s bodies are often treated as disgusting, humourous, and unwanted. As a result, we often do not learn how to make ourselves attractive – out of a base belief that we never can be.
But we know that lots of people like men’s bodies, and let like all sorts of men’s bodies, and for all sorts of reasons.
My basic advice for objectifying your man is to do two things:
1. Verbalize your attraction to him. If the way your partner looks, moves, or performs some task makes you desirous for them – let them know.
2. Find out what parts of his body he wants compliments on. Is he vain about his hair, does he at least like his eyes or smile? If/when he makes an effort with his appearance, a word of appreciation or lust can have a huge impact.
(Seriously find a thread about men talking about compliments they’ve received, guys will keep a shirt or haircut for forty years if a lady says it looks good on him.)
Find skimpy or revealing clothes for him to wear, whatever turns you on and makes a spectacle of him. For Christmas my wife got me some super tight compression under armour tee shirts and matching underpants.
Make him hang pictures and shit on the walls nude while calling him gay. Easy peezy.
I do this a lot, and my husband seems to love it. Example, tonight, he was cooking dinner and told me to come and pick out the pork tenderloin I wanted of the pair, but his exact words were “Come pick your meat!” So I grabbed his ass and said “This right here.”
He’ll probably set you up for it without even meaning to, or maybe he’ll bait you and see if you bite. You just need to listen for an opening. It did take a little practice to get to where I could spout off a phrase or do something overt without overthinking too much.
Phrases are fun, but in my opinion, actions are easier to start with. Pinch/smack/grab his ass as you’re walking by (I’ve never known a guy yo say they dont like this, but ask him if he has any boundaries). Build confidence. Maybe wolf whistle as he’s undressing.
He wants to be told what you find attractive, you like his legs tell him, grab them etc, same of arm, back, belly, shoulders etc.
Think about all the things women complain about. And do that. Wolf whistle. Grope him randomly. Compliment his body. Tell him sexual things you want to do to him. Or him to do to you.