Tips on how to kill the social anxiety of making friends. Since I’ve been out of my relationship old friends have tried to get me to hang with them but my energy is not the same, feelings like I’m fun enough, feeling of what am I going to say, feeling of catching up and NOT turning it into a therapy session. I truly believe I don’t even have the energy to continue/ sit thru a long conversations.
I really just don’t wanna try but I know I need to , to be happy again.
Also how to avoid jumping into another relationship and not catching feelings so quick
Aka this has been on my New Years resolution list for a while …
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I’m struggling with the same problem. My ex left me for someone else and left me devastated because she was the one I’d always talk to on a daily basis. now that I have all this free time I don’t really know what to do with it and when I try to do things that used to be fun I end up finding little joy in it. I would say try to get out and go places, sometimes the conversations will be brought to you. The more you interact with people the easier it will start to become. When you go to the store and check out, ask the cashier if they are having a busy night. Go to the library and ask someone about the book they’re reading. When you make the conversation about them it will get the ball rolling. Like I said I am still struggling with this as well but that’s a good place to start.
Go out and do things you enjoy doing. Don’t try looking for friends per se. I find that when I go out and try to make friends/ask for a date it’ll be awkward. But if I go with an objective in mind (go to the art museum. Or I’ll visit a guitar store) then I’ll find someone I click with.
Doing things around your interests will make the conversations a lot more organic. Make sure you ask them questions to get them talking and find someone who’s interesting enough that you won’t hav to talk too much.