Genuine question: I read all the time that a woman’s vagina cannot become more “loose” the more she has sex, how much she gets penetrated, by what size, etc. The argument for this (I think) is that it’s a muscle and it does not stretch and will always go back to its natural size. If this is true, why do women themselves say they are looser after pregnancy/giving birth. I never hear anyone argue with this, but wouldn’t the logic be the same? That it stretches? I don’t mean any offense I really am just curious.
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My wife’s vagina feels the same to me post child birth for whatever that’s worth
It stretches out yes, and goes back yes. But some women experience tares in the muscles and it does require work to get back to “original” state
Aka keggle exercises (Tares or not)
If a woman has regular intercourse with a “big” man the body gets use to it and if she would right after that have sex with a “small” man she will probably feel very little and him too. But if she continues just having sex with the small guy regularly she will adjust somewhat to him instead. Hence the myth about sex making a woman loose. Its just a small peckers insecurities. Hope it helps
It’s kind of individual but it usually depends on the time frame for returning to “normal”. Everyone’s time frame will be a little different. For some women, they may never be as tight again. For most it just takes a little time. Everyone has a different body though, so there’s no hard and fast rule on this.
Muscles lose their tone and childbirth takes almost a full year to recover from but in general everyday use most penises just help muscles stay in shape. I’ve had several women with more than 100 partners and they’ve all been fantastic! It’s also compete delusions of men that the labia major lips grow or change based on body count. Not trying to mansplain just basic anatomical knowledge and personal experience.
Giving birth can (not always, but it can) cause actual damage to the muscles. Normal sex would never cause that type of damage.
It’s kind of like how normal bowel movements don’t make your butthole looser, but if you were to need to push out a bowling ball you’d definitely have some issues afterwards.
So I have really tight pelvic floor muscles. I use a dilator every day and visit a pelvic floor physiotherapist every few weeks who pushes on my muscles inside my vagina to get them to stretch and relax. It’s a really weird feeling- sometimes it feels like a guitar string running to my tail bone is being plucked.
So yeah, they can be stretched, but without intervention, they return to their resting state, like all muscles. It takes a lot of regular, specialized exercise to get those muscles to stretch. I figure that I’ll have to dilate regularly indefinitely.
Giving birth vaginally can be traumatic to the vagina and the pelvic floor muscles. Some people end up with bladder incontinence or vaginal prolapse. My pelvic floor physiotherapist believes that everyone should get pelvic floor physical therapy after delivering.
After a vaginal birth, many women have their vaginas torn…. Not stretched. Having sex doesn’t stretch it out in any way that’s going to have a lasting effect for more than an hour. IF you tear it, by putting a baby head through it…. And don’t spend time rehabilitating those muscles…. Now you’ve got damage and potentially a new shape. If you do you levels after birth, or don’t tear the vagina, you’ll have no difference. Make sense? Key is that it’s not about ‘stretching’. More sex, using those muscles more, will only make a woman tighter as the muscles strengthen. Again – stretching is just not a factor.
> The argument for this (I think) is that it’s a muscle and it does not stretch and will always go back to its natural size. If this is true, why do women themselves say they are looser after pregnancy/giving birth.
The crown of a baby’s head hits just a bit different than a penis.
There’s a huge difference between penetration and giving pregnancy can damage the body, penises most likely cannot
In my own personal experience, I actively try to stretch my vagina. I can definitely tell it is working and so can my partner. Even though so many say it’s impossible, it’s not. Having said that though, that’s consistent, regular (could be daily), time consuming and deliberate.
It involves perineum massage and holding the fingers in and actively pushing against all the vaginal walls with pressure. Also use of large plugs and other stuff we do.
Childbirth is like a huge trauma for all the muscles to go through, pushing out as hard as you can for long periods of time can damage the pelvic floor some.
Some women have to get cut open or rip there and that’s traumatic as well
I’m a woman who’s been pregnant 5 times, given birth 4, and also a nurse in 2 reproductive health fields.
The vagina is made to accommodate the human infant during birth, then recover to be able to accommodate the penis again so reproduction can continue. (Yes, there are exceptions to prove the rule; that’s why we have c-sections to save moms and babies, and pelvic floor PTs to help with difficult recoveries.) 3 out of 4 times, mine functioned fully as designed, once even after my dwarf self vaginally delivered an almost 9 pound baby. The other time my cervix failed to dilate and I had a c-section, no fault of the vagina.
I have no complaints about the vagina situation, although 5 pregnancies have been a lot of relaxin on my bladder and pelvic floor, so I have the expected amount of stress incontinence when I cough/sneeze/laugh/etc. Husband has no complaints about the vaginal situation, and hasn’t, even when the kids were very small. He has noticed changes over time/subsequent pregnancies, but a lot of those are not “looseness” from the frequency of sex or birth of babies, but the effects of hormones (and especially the relaxin from pregnancy) on connective tissues around the organs like bladder, uterus, ovaries, and bowel.