I have a very busy nightwork schedule so our sex life isn’t the busiest. I have never made her cum but she still enjoys the sex. She rarely masturbates either. She says she only orgasmed a couple of times herself.
She loves clit stimulation so I bought her 2 premium clit vibrators (air pulsing and a massage looking one) to use while I’m at work. She tell me she absolutely loves them and can orgasm quite quickly.
I was quite excited and wanted to see the show and to use during sex too.
However, with my presence in the room, she couldn’t reach climax and that I have to be out of the room to work.
Any suggestions? I really want to watch the show
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Yeah. My suggestion is to mind your business and let her tend to hers.
Ask her to video it and send it to you at work. Some women, if not too hung up, would do that. Reassure and encourage .. I know I’d have to go rub one out at work if my partner sent me something like that.
She can’t fully let herself go with someone watching. This is not surprising at all. Perhaps use the toys during sex with her to help her reach an orgasm with your help.
Make a deal. You’ll let her watch you if you let you watch her.
Join her OnlyFans maybe? Jk
It’s a mental block. It happens
She can’t relax enough. It’s probably embarrassing for her. Don’t push. Maybe you can find a small vibrator that can be used during intercourse. Be supportive. Be reassuring. Give her time.
Ask her if she’d film it for you and send it to you, obviously reassure her you won’t share to anyone else
I’ve never known a woman who wanted a guy to watch. It’s a really private thing. The privacy is what makes it enjoyable.
I dont perform properly when people are watching because I get nervous, could be the same for her. Maybe ask her if she can record it and send it to you instead of you being in the room with her, usually helps me.
The problem is that you’re making it “a show”
You know how you feel when everyone gathers around you and stares at you while singing “Happy Birthday” and you just sit there and smile until it’s over?
That’s basically what you’re wanting her to do, but with her vagina out.
Some people love being on display and doing a show; she doesn’t sound like one of them. I love sex with my partner but would feel uncomfortable if he just sat there watching me touch myself because it feels so “preformancy”. Not everyone feels that way, but it sounds like she does.
Maybe ask if you can help so she isn’t so nervous about being on display?
Ask if maybe you can kiss on her, touch the rest of her body…
Or mutual masterbation. I had to do both of those things before I was comfortable just masturbating in front of a partner.
She won’t be comfortable enough to finish with you pressuring her to perform (I don’t mean that literally, I’m saying she feels the need to perform because of unspoken expectations). Honestly this might be an indication that you need more intimacy in your relationship and to look at sex somewhere differently
That’s the point of sex is to have someone that you feel comfortable with to climax with. So what’s the point of having a partner if you’re uncomfortable masturbating in front of them. It feels amazing when you bust because of somebody else. I would rethink your partner. if I wasn’t comfortable masturbating in front of the person that I’m dating, I should not be dating that person. Clearly, that person is not for me if I can’t be that comfortable in front of them to masturbate just saying. It’s hot as fuck to have your man watching you masturbate watching you play with yourself as he jerks off enjoying every second of it. How could you not want that as a woman? your man drooling over you as you play with yourself that’s like one of the ultimate feel good that a guy can do for you. Showing you that he’d rather watch you then watch a porn. 🤦♀️ people need to get over their insecurities. Yeah, your girl cant jack off in front of you. I would be rethinking my girl. And I’m a girl just saying.
She is entitled to private time, you dont have to stare at her masturbating all the time. I dont think i could climax either with someone watching my every move
I’m the same way. I think I’ve only been able to orgasm twice while masturbating and being watched. There’s a lot of added stimulation so I can’t really focus on myself. Plus, I put pressure on myself so that doesn’t help.
I think giving her some time would help. Maybe she could record herself and show/send it to you.
yeah… maybe because you’re calling it a show and it’s a really private thing that is mainly enjoyable because you don’t have to worry about how you look or what you’re doing
lots of women look like they’re a hunched gremlin in a cocoon when masturbating, and love to be comfy and enveloped in blankets, and orgasms can be a quick shudder and drool as opposed to some symphonic and visual masterpiece, and the stimulation motions can be so slight that it doesn’t make much of a “show” like depicted in porn
2 things:
1- she can’t cum with you in there, because she wants you to get involved. Maybe not penetration, but some kissing or massages or caressing. Be there, just not as an expectator but as a complimentary stimulation.
2- she might be fucking someone else.
‘the show’ she isn’t an actor. she needs to be relaxed and injudged and its hard to do that when someone is just staring at you. does she actually want you to watch her? maybe she can hide her face? like under a pillow so she can concentrate