Seriously I’m struggling so bad. I feel like I can never win. I don’t even know what I want to win or why that feeling is there now anyway. It’s just so frustrating!!
I know I’m just frustrated because it’s built up so much but I just don’t know what to do. I started stonewalling this morning (which is my safety) for the first time in a long time and that to me is me telling myself I need help.
My wife seems like she includes me on decisions but then shoves 101 reasons down my throat about why the things that I want won’t work out or play out the way I think they will. Like hello, I have been doing this whole life thing just as long as you have and I’ve been doing great by myself so why all of a sudden am I now capable of understanding what’s going on??
I don’t feel like I don’t know what’s going on. That’s just how she seems to treat me and everything I say. I don’t get it. What’s the deal?
I feel like you may need more context to really help but I don’t even know what that would be right now but if you have advice I’d be happy to tell you whatever you ask (within reason).
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Sometime, when you aren’t arguing about things like this tell her that the way she disparages your ideas makes you feel unloved and uncared for. Ask her if her opinion of you is really that poor and if so, why?
This sounds like major communication issues that we can’t help with. Go see a marriage counselor.