HELP. IM OVERTHINKING. Or am I not? at this point, im kind of fed up with dating my age. It seems like I would just rather date someone older. been talking to a 25F and it’s going good. now I’m afraid for our age difference to be brought up and it brings the whole thing crashing down. I’d hate to think I’m incapable of receiving their love just because of an age gap. I carry myself well and im very proud of the person I am and what I do, so it can seem in older than I am. I guess I just need help in knowing what to do when the time comes around and we have that conversation. thx
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Stop overthinking, do push-ups or something.
Just don’t become too dependent on her, because I’m assuming she has a career already and you’re still in college. You don’t want to end up in a situation where you can’t leave because you rely on her too much.
This year I had 3 short relationships, 2 of which were older women. Don’t over think it and go for it. Honestly I felt more comfortable and secure in them, even though the second one was a nut job, should’ve run faster but that’s my fault. I avoided a lot of issues I had with younger women and they were more comfortable and secure with their bodies and what they liked. I was honestly thinking about starting to date older until I met my current gf and scrapped that plan 🤷
There are good and bad things about older women. The older you go, the more financially stable you need to be and you need to be thinking about family/children more which I’m not and caused the first breakup. Ofcourse this doesn’t apply to all, just generalised but I would suggest you try it out and see if it works for you. If it does, keep doing it but don’t limit yourself to older women either. Sometimes someone your age comes along and flips your world upside down in a positive way.