How do I even go about this ?

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  1. Zero context and hard to read, very intense messages and texts. Not sure anybody here can provide valuable feedback. Get help from people that can help.

  3. I think you should delete this and try posting again with a clear and less personal explanation of what’s going on if you want some advice. The only thing I can see here is that your wife is pissed off and fed up. Everyone has a breaking point. If you want to turn this around, the best advice I can give you is to throw your ego aside and try to level with your wife when you’re both calm. Nothing will get resolved when you’re talking to each other like this.

  4. Okay I’ll break it down into more understandable way. My wife got sick and I checked up on her because she’s been hack coughing. I tell her go take a hot shower to loosen up the mucus then she snaps at me . She was already mad at me because I didn’t open my mouth and express how I felt. I have a history of not expressing my feelings not because of pride but because I wasn’t taught to express them never knew how I just keep moving forward I didn’t see no reason to I handled it on my own by just smiling or meditating or siting quitely and telling her I’m ok when I’m not so she doesn’t worry. And this is what I’m greeted with as I get in the shower. So my question is how do I confront this or even resolve this? You guys say you couldn’t understand and all I’m new to Reddit I didn’t know. But I communicated with her already and told her I was okay and that I needed space and she gets mad she acts like this and blocks me and throws tantrums just all around toxic . We live in the same house yet she’d rather text then communicate. I listen EVERYTIME and yet it’s all pushed back on to me and if I didn’t mention I’m 22(m) shes 20(f) hope this clears everything up.

  5. I used to have really toxic arguments with my husband, but I’ve never talked to him like this. It sounds like you really need a third party objective person to help you improve how you communicate. I used to always hate when people immediately jump to recommending therapy, but for us, listening/empathy training and couples therapy saved our marriage. I was a really painful year unlearning toxic behaviors and communication, but I can’t recommend it enough.

  6. Thank you honestly because it seems like it’s mostly when she’s mad at me or assumes she blocks me or does spiteful things

  9. Sounds like she doesn’t know how to control her emotions. You’ll have to wait for her to calm down and then you two can hopefully work the problem out. You guys are young and her blocking you any time she has her moments isn’t the mature thing to do. Maybe she just needs a bit more growing up. Just FYI this is sign of a toxic relationship. Been there and thankfully got out of it.

  10. Oof, the way she spoke to you is unacceptable.

    Yelling and cussing at each other along with hitting below the belt in an argument only breeds resentment.

  13. Run. In the opposite direction of that person. As fast as you possibly can.

    Godspeed.

  16. “She’s tried everything in the book,” how about a period, comma, I don’t know. More fluid sentences. 😳😳

  25. Just saying “you weren’t taught to express yourself” doesn’t excuse you from not learning how to. So maybe tell her you’ll work on this and actually do that. And if she continues with her crap and doesn’t communicate nicer then you may not be able to fix this. Just try your part and treat her how you want to be treated and see if that works.

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