My boyfriend (? Idk anymore actually it’s more of a situationship for now cause of exams and not being able to give each other as much time and mindspace) and I have our high school finals coming up (a really big deal honestly), and he has a lot of pressure from his parents to do well. They’re quite strict. Cause of that, he broke up with me saying that he didn’t feel anything for me (but we talked it out and chalked it off as being due to stress cause once the stress subsided around a week later he got his thoughts cleared again). So we decided to be in a situationship for the next couple months until both our exams end and then date freely after that. However, he also seems to have trauma from his parents not so good marriage, and their constant fighting, and finds it difficult to emotionally commit fully. He clearly told me about these issues tho after our talk to take a break, and I’m glad that he opened up to me about this, cause it must mean that he’s willing to slowly better himself in that aspect and wants to eventually open up to me properly, right? But yea, rn I don’t really know what to think….I really like him tho, but I’m an anxious over thinker so i sometimes end up concluding that he just hates me. Idk sigh

We text everyday tho, like atleast for a little bit (we don’t meet in person much cause we live in different neighborhoods and go to different schools), and he also said that I’m special to him, and he even called me and wished me on new years (he doesn’t really call people much apparently so he said that him getting caught on a phone call on newyears by his parents was quite surprising and suspicious to them, cause they don’t know that we were/are kind of a thing). However, it feels like I’m always the one who’s more excited to talk to him or puts in more effort (he is a very dry texter tho and doesn’t really talk much and generally doesn’t show much emotion). It might just seem this way rn tho cause I kind of balance my school work and exam prep a bit more and am more used to it compared to him, because we study different curriculum, so our exam patterns are different. So overall I’m a bit more relaxed in that aspect.

Tl;dr – I’m in a situationship with my (ex?) boyfriend now (basically we decided to take a break) cause of exams stress and stuff, but like is is a good idea? Idk I’m just an anxious person in general and am working on it, and he has some issues of his own that he’s willing to work on (I think, hopefully, pretty sure yeah). So what do y’all think?

Anyway, Lemme know what y’all think of this

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  1. If I could give any advice to 16 year old me, it would be to put myself first and focus on my schooling and say screw it about boys. You will have plenty of time in college (if that’s what you want for your future) to meet men. You shouldn’t stress over a guy so young in life, trust me. I dated someone from 15-20 and it took up a bunch of my headspace and based decisions around a person who isn’t in my life anymore.

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