So, I’ve known this guy for a while as a good platonic friend. There’s no real physical attraction on my part while he told me he finds me very attractive. Long story short, some occasional platonic massages turned into sex (in addition to massages). I’ve been single now for a while and so has he and we both are longing for touch. I had been clear right from the onset that I was only interested in FWB but I can tell he enjoys it so much he could see me or at least talk to me on the phone every day. Our monthly massages became weekly before I knew it. He also eluded on several occasions to the idea that I sleep over. So I feel like he always wants more. Am-I right to start thinking he could be developing an emotional dependency? The last thing I want to do is to hurt him. He *tells* me he understands that I am only interested in FWB, but ?
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Set clear boundaries. If all you want is FWB keep it strictly to that. No sleepovers. No “texting just to chat”, none of it. Keep it to you only texting to have sex.
He clearly wants a relationship but he’s willing to settle for what he can get and he’s hoping you’ll end up changing your mind. When you cut him off he’s definitely going to be upset.