Unfairness

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2. There’s a really great book called “Fearing The Black Body” by Sabrina Strings that gets into the history of fatphobia. Another reason is probably because mainstream beauty standards lean toward women needing to look childlike to be considered conventionally attractive. It’s why there’s such a weird fixation of “staying youthful”

3. …you kind of do, though. Mind you it’s not a “you” specifically remark, but guys are shamed for a *lot* of things, though not always overtly. There’s this tendency to be snide and underhanded, then when the guy reacts unfavorably shift to defensiveness and play it off as a joke. It’s even a part of pop culture. The guy who is *always* made fun of is fat, balding, and tends to be a father without any respect.

   Guys deal with it all the time, the difference is we’re expected to take it.

4. When it came to size, the men were asked which dress size they preferred in women, here the results were unanimous. The majority of the men (nearly 86% of them) preferred a woman with a dress size 14 to 16. This was a poll .I for one if I like a woman it’s not for her size .I am 59m and have a full head of hair so I don’t see the unfairness its preference .

5. Because we don’t shame people over things they can’t control? Weight is 100% under your control. I get that it’s not nice, but it is what it is.

6. I don’t think shaming in any way should be justified by “oh he said this, so it’s OK if I say this”.

7. I don’t think we’re shamed, just less attractive. Men also tend to gain weight in their 30s – try finding a 40-year-old with washboard abs! While I would never shame a guy for having thinned hair, I find them less attractive and don’t match with them. I think it’s worse for men because there’s nothing they can do to realistically improve the situation.

8. There is still shame for men losing hair, and that’s still something men can’t control over time. Unlike weight which can be changed and some “shame” is a good thing because it lets you know your a little bit chunky. I don’t think there is any unfairness between both genders in barely any aspects of every day life.

9. Nobody should be shaming people for anything. Except rudeness.

   But people can pass on you for ANY reason. I’m not into bald men, so I don’t date them. And I know men can lose their hair at any time, and no I won’t leave them when they do. But for now, it is what it is.

   That being said, men can’t control hair loss. But all humans can control weight gain, except a very very few with certain medical conditions. And I absolutely would leave someone over significant controllable weight gain. Because now our priorities are not the same

10. I can’t will myself to regrow hair. People can will themselves to lose weight