Me (F) and my bf are in the first months of our relationship, therefore having lots of sex.
However, when we’re having penetrative sex, he loses quite a bit of his erection after around 10 minutes of it so we can’t go on. But I easily make him cut after that with a hand or blowjob.
Sometimes he also loses his erection when he does things to please me, and almost looks frustrated and/or annoyed when pleasing me last more than a few minutes.
Is there something wrong with me ?
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Is he wearing the right sized condoms?
There is NOTHING wrong with you. There are many reasons why your bf might lose an erection, and none of them have to do with you. He might only be able to maintain an erection for 10 minutes. They don’t last forever (maximum 30 mins). They need to take a breather from time to time even if they haven’t cum. If he’s overweight, out of shape, a frequent drinker/smoker, this can all affect endurance. Finally, nerves about maintaining an erection can make you lose one. The relationship between a guy and his dick is a complex and psychological rollercoaster. It’s more likely that he’s frustrated with himself in those moments when he loses steam. If he expresses frustration with you, he’s placing blame on you that’s undeserved. But know that he’s just venting his frustration and that it’s not your fault.
There are some things you can do about it tho. First, just wait. Your relationship is young and you’re still getting used to each other’s bodies. The situation will probably resolve itself as you adapt to each other. If you’re into sex toys, try a cock ring. They’re super cheap and they help guys maintain harder erections for longer. Just make sure not to keep it on for more than 30 mins at a time. A [stretchy ring](https://condomania.com/products/atomic-jock-sprocket-cock-ring?variant=42475139694824) is a comfy go-to. [Adjustable rings](https://condomania.com/products/velvor-rooster-ragnar-adjustable-lasso-string-cock-ring-red) are also affordable and convenient.
Sorry you’re having this problem, but it will almost definitely get better with time. Just don’t blame yourself (or let him blame you) for issues with sex. Sex is like a 3-legged race. You’re both gonna stumble and fall. That’s just life. Good partners can smile about it, learn, and work together to improve.