I broke up with my boyfriend last year and I was so devastated. I think it was mainly because at 26, he was my first boyfriend, the only guy who has shown interest in me who I have been mutually attracted to. But even still, he told me he never loved me. I had been so relieved when I met him, that finally someone liked me back.
i had a few months to heal and in September, I downloaded Hinge as a lot of my friends met their boyfriends on there. I was hopeful and excited
But it’s just not working for me and I’m terrified. I get plenty of good matches, we start messaging, and then poof! they stop replying. I have a good profile with nice photos and bio. I am a bit of an over thinker when it comes to my messages, sometimes I worry I’m being too boring or prudish, and other times I worry I have bad jokes or not witty enough. I find the small talk tedious like I just wanna meet them, don’t really feel much attraction before we meet but is that normal?
E.g exchanged a few messages with a Spanish man who messaged me first, but he hasn’t responded to my last message in 2 days, we’re my messages. Terrible??
Him: I’m good thanks! I was back in Spain for the Christmas but coming back tomorrow in the uk. Ahaha yes my family has danish roots so I guess I’m fine
Camels are really impressive when standing next to them. I didn’t try riding them though as they are overexploited here and I didn’t want to support it.’
Me: ‘back to gloomy England haha. Did you have a nice break?
Haha, see, definitely have some Viking in you then.
You have good morals ☺️ it’s the same with elephants I think, seems a bit selfish for people to sit on them!’
anyhow, They just keep stopping responding. It’s happened about 15 times now and now I’m worried I’m just past it. Im going to men average in looks but with things in common on profile.
starting to worry I just will never find anyone now. I’m 27 and only ever had one boyfriend and even he didn’t like me in the end
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How long do you text with them before they stop?
Have you met up with any of these guys? I mean non-responders are pretty typical tbh and it’s basically been only 2 months (not counting Dec-Jan due to the holidays) so not long.
You’re probably doing something wrong, but from what you’ve written us I don’t see anything that you are doing wrong within the information you gave us. You even said something nice to him! I would definitely keep that conversation going.
If you aren’t sure what you are doing wrong, try just jumbling things up for no particular reason. Get some new photos even if your current ones are fine, write a new profile etc.