Spark on a date

5 comments

1. I think sparks can be built as long as you don’t find him physically unattractive

2. No he should just be relegated to friend in that case

3. Sparks are not guaranteed. Suffice to say, way too many people use passionate love as the zenith of “proof of love,” but at the end of the day…it’s really nothing special. You can *learn* to love anyone. Intimate love is simply trust, honesty, and time while companionative love is built through time and shared experiences. Having passionate love is nice because it helps you get through the early stages while you’re still getting to know the person, but just because the sparks aren’t flying doesn’t mean that he wouldn’t necessarily be a good partner long term.

   Just give it a few dates and see how you two do together. You may not feel a strange pulse, but if you’re both attracted to each other, are functionally complimentary, and have fun together, what’s not to enjoy?

4. I truly believe most relationships have to be built and the “love at first sight” is not reality for most people (a lot of the times it’s lust and then it turns into love as well). Find someone and be friends first then it should feel natural for it to become romantic.

   For most building love is reality and it’s not always ínstense emotions at first, solid relationships take time. Most relationships that start passionate and quickly, die really fast.

5. I find that if there’s no hint of a spark on a first date, I won’t pursue it any further. Not saying spark=love, more like a spark that makes you excited to be with them in that moment.

   Enjoying each other’s company without a connection is essentially just friendship.