I was dating a girl in December, we are both in our 20s. In the beginning of dating she wanted to talk about our pasts, like how many partners did I have etc. I told her it is inconvenient for me. She said okay, but the next date once she got tipsy she started to talk about her past which triggered my insecurities. It is not just with her, but anyone I start to like. I talked with my therapist about it, and I can deal with it if I don’t know about it, but if it comes up by accident or funny story, I have to calm myself inside and take a deep breath without saying any stupid thing.
I am working on this with my therapist, but feeling like, I could have all the confidence in the world, If I would hear any part of a story of my girlfriend’s previous one night stands, I would feel jealousy. I don’t know why. I know women like sex too, therefore do one night stands, but really hard to deal with these information, without imagining it in my head, which makes me mad.
I don’t think that the solution is cancel this topic, because once it will come up somehow, even by accident, or purposely, but I have to be ready for it. I just feel I cannot handle it, and need some time after it to cool myself down.
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bro we all have girls that other dudes have boinked. it comes alomg with the territory these days.
Just get over it. She is sharing this info because it turns her on to talk about sex. If you are that inexperienced, swallow your pride and use her to practice sex with. If she asks you and you are a virgin, just say “a gentleman doesn’t kiss and tell and a lady doesn’t ask”. That will shut her up. If she insists, she is not respecting your wishes and needs to go asap.