First of all thank you! I was very insecure about self-pleasuring and you all helped me a lot.
I am 19/f and a virgin. Today, I really penetrated myself for the first time. Before, I only went 1 or 2 cm deep, until there was something like a “wall” I couldn’t get through. Then I found the entrance but it was so tight. I was afraid I have vaginism.
Today I tried again and waited until I was very wet, turned on a sex playlist, closed my eyes while being in bed on my belly and slowly worked with the pelvis toward the finger, not pushing with my finger. It was great! I had zero pain or uncomfortableness! Didn’t feel my hymen either.
I am pretty tight, so how can I fit 2 fingers inside me? Because I’ve read that if you can fit 2 fingers, it’s good as a preperation for the penis or dildo.
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If you’re not relaxed and don’t think about something that really turn you on at that moment, it will hurt. The first rule is that. Secondly, if you have difficulties with natural lubrication, you can use saliva on your hand. My advice is this; start with one finger and then later when you feel wet enough insert the other
This was my issue for a while too. Then one day I was just feeling really turned on and realized it had caused me to relax a bit and I was able to fit two fingers. Not sure if that’s helpful but you might wanna try just going at it for a while until you get really relaxed or lubricated and that should help.
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I had the same problem but my best friend (guy!) suggested something that actually worked.
Before you start, suck on your finger a bit and run on your clit until you’re very very wet. Try with one finger. When you’re so wet you can barely feel the one finger try the second. The more lube there is the less you hurt. I did this for a while and at some point not even the two fingers were enough anymore.
Hope this helps 🙂