I have always been ashamed of feeling lust. I even masturbated for the first time (properly) at 16.

Now that im single again i have the freedom to actually penetrate with the toy that i have, but it is too big and even with lube hurts quite a lot. I lost my virginity with him and explored all my desires with him. Now i feel disgusted not knowing what i like for me or what i liked so i could turn him on. Like mommy play. I enjoy it, yeah. But i also would have liked to be the sub for once (i barely was with him).

I am not experienced at all with toys or sex or anything of the sorts, so i want to build that up. If any of you have reccomendations for beginner toys (or how to cope that this is normal), it would help a lot by normalising this for me.

I am really just starting all over again with exploring what turns me on and what is a nono because of those dreadfull 3 years..

Thank you, have a good day.

6 comments

  2. You should get something small that won’t hurt you, something that vibrates, and explore away.

    Try different things with your clit, try and use a vibrator to find the g spot in your vagina and go to town 🙂

  3. Well take your time do readings and explore by own instead of asking others. You can explore and know your body Better.

  4. Why don’t you just begin with your fingers? You’ll have complete control instead of using some toy just because you think it should do the trick. You can just start to explore your body by yourself and see where you want to be stimulated. Then, using toys will feel more natural I believe. Generally speaking: Don’t do stuff just because you think one should do, but try to really find out what you like. 🙂

  5. start with vibrators first!! either a bullet vibrator, hitachi wand, or even your shower head/bathtub tap. feel like clit stimulation is a lot easier than vaginal stimulation for beginners 😀

  6. Just explore your body, try new things like anal, figure out what you’re into. Just do what you feel comfy w though

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