I am so worried and distressed. There is someone I love and appreciate very much. This person is infinitely important to me. But he is obviously doing very badly and is withdrawing more and more from me and our family. Apparently there is no more trust in me or us out of concern that he will cause even more grief and worry. He can tell anything. No matter what. Really everything……
What shall I do?
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I don’t really understand the final part because im not good at english but ill answer the first half.
If he’s not doing well and is withdrawing from people, you have to show to him that he can trust you enough to ask you for help.
First, tell him your concern directly. Be honest and tell him that you’re worried and you will offer your help.
If it doesn’t work, don’t repeat it. Use actions instead. Showing him that you help other people will make him think that you are trustworthy.
If both fails, target the ones he cares about. If he has friends that he loves then be close with them because he will trust who his closest friends trust.
If he has nobody and doesn’t want to talk then don’t bother. Its either he needs some space and you need to leave him alone or its a lost cause and will only destroy you if you keep trying.