So I’ve been in a long distance relationship with my bf for over a year now, we talk and text all the time and we definitely have a connection however sex is a huge issue. At the beginning I tried to sent nudes and do stuff to turn him on, he did show me that he liked it but he also never did anything like that for me which at the time didn’t bother me.
The problems started when he visited me and for about a month that we were together he played with me a lot but we only tried to actually have sex twice and it just didn’t work which made me sad but I figured it’s out first time together he’s just struggling a bit.
Well now I’m visiting him, I’ve been here for two weeks and we still didn’t have sex. First few days he played with me and made me cum but always when I asked. We didn’t have sex because he didn’t want to without condoms(I agreed even though it’s a little weird for me that he knew his gf is coming over and he didn’t get any). So when we finally got the condoms I was super exited but I noticed he definitely wasn’t. That night he made me cum and when I tried to make him hard it just didn’t work(I made him hard and cum twice while I was here though). I asked what’s wrong and he just said he it doesn’t feel right, that made me upset and I started to cry because in my head that looks like he’s just not attracted to me. After a lot of crying he admitted that he’s worried he won’t be able to please me and that he’s very insecure about his weight since he’s a bigger guy. I hugged him and said it’ll be okay but this is worrying me.
I don’t know what to do, this has happened a week ago and he didn’t touch me at all since then I feel awful but I don’t wanna talk about it again because I just know it’ll hurt him. I’m pretty sure nothing sexual will happen while I’m here but I’m concern what’s the next step now, we’ll probably saw each other in a 3 maybe 4 months again and I feel like he won’t charge until than. I love him but idk how am I supposed to be with someone who won’t have sex with me. What should I do?