Hey guys. Wondering if there’s any way i can help myself overcome this one.
Keeping it short – My girlfriend and I dated for 3 years, lived together for one, and have just broken up.
Our lives when we met were not regimented, making it easy to believe we were going to be compatible
Only in the last 5 months have our lives taken a strong direction, in career and personal interests. Both of these things clash for us. It was clear for us both we will not be happy in 1, 5, 10 years.
We both talked for 2 days straight. Mutually agreeing however hard it was we will need to live our own lives in order to not waste them.
We both consider each other our soulmate, yet we must break up. The arguments started, deep feeling of wanting to focus on my own life began. She shared the same feelings.
Has anyone else gone through this? It hurts more than anything but had to be done
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What the fuck would be the point of breaking up if you’re soul mates? I don’t understand .
It’s so difficult to find someone to truly love these days.
You’re both in for a wild shock when you start dating again.
How was there no compromise on either side to make this work??
I can’t wrap my head around this.
I have almost no advice on how to deal with this. It would be like mourning a death for me.
Forever damaged.
Hmm. u/buriednorth brings up a good point. There’s no possible way to compromise or go through a period of long distance or something to make it work?
You haven’t actually said what different directions your lives have gone in, what career interests are involved, etc.
How could anyone give you advice without knowing what you are talking about?