long story short, i’ve had a really rough go at life for the past 6 months mental health-wise. my poor boyfriend is literally deployed overseas and has been since the summer (he’s in the military), yet he’s been here for me every step of the way. he puts so much effort and love into trying to help me out and making me feel cared for. i’ve told him a thousand times over how much i love and appreciate him for this, but i feel like words aren’t completely capturing how grateful i am. i’d really like to do something for him “just because” to show my gratitude. the issue is, his deployment makes things complicated. he can’t get deliveries to the base he’s at, so it can’t involve uber eats/its foreign equivalent/anything similar. i can’t send him mail at the moment either. so i can mainly either do something virtually or ask one of his deployed friends to help me do something.
i’d really appreciate any ideas as i’m struggling here! we’ve been together for about 2 years and i’d love to do something for him in light of what’s been going on recently. TIA 🙂
**TL;DR:** boyfriend is an angel and i’d like to show him my gratitude by doing something nice for him 🙂
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* Any way you could send him a small amount of money that he could spend on a coffee or a lunch?
* You could make something for him, like visual art, a story, a song, or a poem – whatever highlights your skills and interests, and whatever can be sent electronically.
If I were in your shoes, there are two things I would seek to understand/know about him. First, figure out what his love language is and make sure you cater to that. Secondly, outside of his love language, what are things he deems absolutely important (like gaming, reading and general hobbies etc), help facilitate these activities and he will know that you see him, hear him and that he is important to you. These are where I’d start. Best of luck.
Some ideas that come to mind, since you can’t send him anything physical, would be to plan a virtual date night, send an electronic gift card, send an electronic photo album / slideshow of pics of you together and things that you share, make a romantic playlist on Spotify or another app, or even just email a heartfelt letter. Maybe make an electronic version one of those “coupon” books that partners can “redeem” with both things that you can do while he is deployed (virtual date night etc) and when he gets back (back rub, whatever) so he has something to look forward to? Finally if you know and are close with his family and/or friends maybe plan a surprise group call.
Cook his favorite meal
Maybe have a movie date together via watch party?