Very recently my s/o was going down on me she was trying really hard to make me ejaculate in her mouth and I simply could not do it. I closed my eyes to feel a better sensation and nothing seemed to work. Finally she got fed up and got very upset, I was too and I realized I need a “tighter” motion.
Upon researching I realized I may be struggling from death grip. I’ve read a few articles, web pages and Reddit threads and they all seem to mention the same stuff – limit/stop masturbation, reduce/stop porn usage, and not to use a tighter grip and be more loose. Basically re-wire the sensation. There is one thing that I don’t understand, a lot people mention the same thing, which is to use lube…the problem I already use lube and a tight grip. Should I use lube, but looser grip?
What should I do? I am still a virgin and I expect PIV to be much tighter than a mouth, or hand. And I want to finish from a BJ as well. Please advise
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Chastity cage should get that sorted out haha!
The articles are largely right you need to really cut down on jerking off.
Also…you may not be *into* jerking off into her mouth. Maybe that just ain’t your thing. You might be perfectly fine climaxing with PIV or anything else.
You will be very disappointed if you expect PiV to be tighter than your hand, especially if you are gripping very hard. You also wont have as much friction that lots of people like in order to finish.
However, I also cannot finish from a blowjob. Lots of men can’t, I like it but it wont finish me. I can finish from PiV though.
1. Stop all porn immediately
2. Masturbate max 2x a week for the next couple of months
3. Use lube
4. Go insanely slow. Like barely any stimulation.