I’m in a new long-distance relationship with my girlfriend, and I can only see her once every month or two. She was talking about going out on a date to eat before I flew to see her and I thought it was a good idea. After settling in at her house she took me there and we had a great time. The problem started when I saw the prices and didn’t expect them to be so high. I asked if she feels comfortable splitting and she seemed hesitant so then I said I’ll just take care of it. Then she said no it’s fine I thought we were going to split to which I said I’ll pay for it and gave her the option to Venmo me if she wants. We walked out and she started crying because she said she remembers the time when she had to pay for everything in her previous relationship. I told her that I’m used to splitting larger-than-expected bills and don’t mind paying for little things. It didn’t seem like she had a problem with that so she sent me a Venmo when we got home. I guess the next time I take her out I’m going to be the one paying? Not sure what to do.
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M[29] here, anything under $125 I don’t mind paying for but my GF REFUSES to let me just take on anything over that without splitting.
Going on a cute lil date to like Applebees or some affordable restaurant Shouldnt need to be split but if you go to a higher price restaurant and its unexpected I think splitting is fine! Relationships are about sharing! I understand her past trauma but if she expects you to pay for everything all the time that’s not sustainable!