Like I feel like I might need a therapist. I don’t know when I’m being rude or not. Like I don’t want to interrupt people. I don’t know when to talk. I don’t know when not to talk. When to say excuse me,when not to. I’m failing in those areas. I always look at people face I feel negative energy from because I feel like it’s directed at me. Like I make be doing something unknowingly rude. I don’t know when to help or not to help. It’s freaking exhausting especially at work.
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Are you someone who keeps to themselves? If so then it is generally harder to know what to say in social situations. I also had the same issue whenever I’m with a group of people, and I came to realize it wasn’t because I didn’t know how to speak, but it was because I don’t expose myself to socialization enough. It became harder to speak, and I always thought that people were intentionally mean, and they could be.
Some people wouldn’t mind it, but others could take jabs at you or just ignore you as much as they can. It creates this fear inside of you and strips you of your confidence to be who you want to be in front of others. A therapist can help, but ultimately you will be making the decision on whether or not you will ignore the mean peeps and express yourself more.
Wow it’s like you’re speaking from my perspective 1 year ago. I’ve always been worried not be rude or something. But i’ll tell you a fact, it is sometimes fine to be rude or to interrupt someone occasionally it is totally fine, firstly because we all have a dark side, secondly it’s good for your mental health, just don’t exaggerate it, trust me when you do whatever you want and be yourself without trying to please everyone you would be respected. The second thing is there is no specific time to speaking, you can speak whenever you want to, just think about it twice first and try to intercept what’s going to happen after you say it, at times it will be overwhelming and difficult because you have no time to think deeply but you’ll get used to it, just have a small pause for 1 – 2 seconds think about what you’re going to say then speak, if nothing pops in your head you could stay silent, silence is a symbol of power, it makes you appear mysterious and keeps your enemies wondering about what you’re thinking about. Lastly always have high confidence, having high confidence means no one will see your mistakes, they’ll see it as a sign of power and intelligence. Sorry if i kept it long but i know how it feels to be in your shoes.