What would you do if a girl that rejected you starts a conversation after several months/years?

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  3. Just say hi like a normal person. People change, why hold a grudge? Unless it was like a helluva rejection.

  7. Ignore her completely. If I wasn’t worth her time then, she certainly isn’t worth my time now.

  8. If I’m still single, I’ll ask her out after a few messages. Not going to waste my time with somebody who wants a penpal.

  9. There’s a girl that rejected me 4 years ago or so. But now 1-2 times a year she hits me up saying she misses me or she wonders what we could’ve been if we stayed together. Every time we would make plans, then she would ghost me. Like clockwork. Finally the last time I just told her straight up to leave me alone cuz it was getting really old lol

  10. Depends on why and how she rejected me. If it was for shallow reasons and she unnecessarily put me down when rejecting me, I wouldn’t give her a second of my time.

  11. First off, I usually start with “Who’s this?” Make her humble herself a bit, and make like I don’t care.

    “Lol. What, did you lose my number?” “No, I deleted it. Who dis?”

    Then I start asking ‘why?’ a lot.

    “So… you maybe want to hang out?” “Why?”

    Stuff like that.

    Sorry, toots. I wasn’t good enough for you several months/years ago, so you’re not good enough for me now. You had your chance. No takesies-backsies.

    If I do anything else, she wins, then has all the power. And I can’t enter into a relationship with the balance of power all on her side. If I acquiesce, she’ll know she can do whatever she wants to me, and I’ll put up with it. And I have too much pride to let myself get used like that.

  13. happened recently. it’s fine. we were mismatched – I’m not into her kink – but she’s still cool to talk to

  15. Take the high road, just have a normal conversation with no expectations from either side.

  16. Look at that point I’m only going to talk to her for the cheeks if it’s even worth it ( Probably not) but then I’ll probably just ignore her because I’m going to be doing most of the work for us to have a good time in and out the bedroom. So I would rather put that energy into a woman that was into me from the start.

  18. I’d respond, but the first topic of discussion would be about what has changed to make her reach out to me. If now is good, why was then no good?

  21. I’ll keep it cordial with them. No reason not too. A rejection isn’t a big deal to me I’m used to that. So long as it wasn’t an out of pocket rejection I’ll still talk to them. Now would I date them? Probably not, once I’m rejected I pretty much move that woman into the “indifferent” box. I’m no longer interested, I don’t care to be friends as far as I’m concerned I’m just chatting with another random person.

  24. I’d be cautious as to why but open to it. People can change perspectives on things but I’d be cautious they might know you are an easy rebound or something.

  25. I’ll be friendly but the opportunity for dating closed when she rejected me. I don’t believe in “right person wrong time”.

  30. Depends on the situation. Was she just not available at the time? Was it a hard/rude rejection?

    If she just wasn’t available then but thought of me later when she was, I’d be excited.

  31. You previously asked her out when she really had no clue who you were. Are you suprised that she wasn’t interested? I’m a guy and I honestly would be cautious if some random girl came up to me and asked me out. As a girl they have to be super cautious, roo many creeps out there. She may have stalked you on social media sense and saw something that she liked in you…

    At the time you may have been rejected because she was already dating and or talking to someone else. I would give her a chance. She may have also been busy with other things previously and she didn’t have time to date.

    People reject for a number of reasons, not always because they don’t like you or something.

  32. There has to be something quite special about her for it to peak my interest.

    She made the decision that I’m not worth her time, Therefore, I’m not going to make time for her, But if I happen to have time, sure.

  35. she didn’t reject me, she just lived far away, then she texts me one night saying she was in town after I’d completely forgotten her, you know how the rest goes.

  37. Talk, but don’t expect too much. I mean, it’s not like she has any competition in my inbox, but after having ghosted or rejected me once, nothing stops her from doing it again.

  38. I talked to her back! Jeeze, this isn’t Jr High, you don’t make a mean face at them and hold a grudge.

    Vicki, destroyed the 2nd half of my Sr yr of high school. (After football and wrestling seasons, she dumped me for a guy on the track team.) I saw her 30 yrs later and we chatted. *Ok, maybe the Jr High remark was a little off.* Wifey and I were going to a performance of the Phoenix Symphony and were dressed appropriately, evening wear, but were early so we went to the lounge of a nice hotel across the street for a drink. As we were leaving, I heard my name called. I turned and there she was…IN A MAID UNIFORM!

  40. I do not see why I need to associate myself again with her so I will not respond. Ignoring her is the last thing I can do for my old self who was so dumbly in love with her back then.

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