How would you handle a partner who has no drive or motivation to do more with their life?

8 comments

1. I think I would talk to them directly and ask them what drives them, what they aspire to become or why they’re content with how things are. I think at that point if they don’t see your angle or why you’re concerned, it may be time to talk to them seriously about your goals out of a relationship and assess theirs

2. Depends on if they are happy with their current status in life or if they are expressing that they want change but not taking steps toward that change.

   If it’s the former, who cares? Let them be happy.

   If it’s the latter, express your frustration and see how they respond.

3. Depends on how into them I am. If I’m not that serious, I’ll probably just drop them but if I already care for them I will encourage them as much as possible but at the end of the day it’s up to them. If after some time they’re still not moving forward then I’ll have to leave them. I’m a very motivated individual with lots of goals and aspirations, I need someone who can feed into that energy.

4. That was fine when I was younger and dating more casually but I can’t see myself staying with someone like that as a serious relationship.

5. I don’t believe one always has to “do more” with their life. If they’re self sufficient and content with the way things are, what’s the problem?

6. Depends on where they are at with their life. If they were working a dead end job or worse, had no job and didn’t want to do better for themselves then they would quickly become an ex.

7. I don’t even have interest in doing more with my life so I wouldn’t care.

8. I would not mind it, especially if there were just some wild poet and just wanted a tiny house in the woods. Overly ambitious types don’t suit me or interest me much. i like to live the day to day, but if they had some creative ambitions – a little exhibition or book that would be great.