Ok Reddit, here’s the thing. I’m a 22f and I just had a hysterectomy about 3 weeks ago for personal reasons. I’m officially off of birth control for the first time in 8 years. I had a sex drive on birth control, but off birth control it’s a whole new level. I can’t have sex for another 3 weeks. I can use a vibrator for external play, but that’s about it. My hormones are either really messed up, or this is my actual sex drive (which I’m totally happy about). I’ve never been like this, my 23m husband is a little freaked out because I’ve never been all over him all the time like this. It’s definitely an adjustment for both of us (he has said he likes this side of me it’s just not what we’ve been doing for almost 7 years), and all I want to do is give him blowjobs over and over and over again. I feel like a teenage boy who just discovered porn for the first time. Sex is literally all I can think about, and I’m guessing it’s just pent up sexual frustration from not being allowed to do anything. My question is, how do I get through these next 3 weeks? He can’t really handle getting blown all day everyday and that’s about all I can do right now and I’m starting to get frustrated when he says not right now. I feel like an asshole because he’s always been so respectful of me when I tell him I’m not in the mood. Why am I feeling all of these emotions and why can’t I just be okay when he says no? I literally just walked away in tears even though the only reason he said no was because he works nights and has to sleep for work. Most women I know hate giving blowjobs, so why am I crying because I can’t?
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I think you’ve just gotta ride this one out.
As long as you can rationalise after the event, have a good old cry and do whatever you have to do. Just give things time to settle.