What’s something that you shouldn’t do/say to a depressed person?

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1. ill start with “just be happy”

2. Stop being depressed

3. Pull yourself up by the bootstraps

4. “There are people who have it worse”

   “You’ve got a roof over your head and food on the table, what do you have to be sad about?”

   “You’re too pessimistic”

   “Just start working out/order some good food/do something fun, that always helps me when I’m feeling down”

   “You think *you’re* depressed? I went through this and that and also this and I’m still keeping my head up, so there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to”

   “It’s all in your head”

5. ´But you have nothing to be sad about.´
   ´There are worse things.´
   ´but you´re always laughing.´
   ´Just get over it.´

   Honestly I could go on and on about people just not understanding it and saying insensitive or sometimes just blatantly dumb shit.

6. “You are not depressed, you are just lazy.”

7. HaVe yOu tRiEd GoInG fOr a WaLk??

   Sure. Exercise absolutely has benefits. But if someone’s opening up to you about their struggles, they don’t need you to tell them to walk around the block. If someone can’t get out of bed, they don’t need you to tell them to go for a stroll. Just have some fucking empathy.

8. Cheer up it might never happen

9. “Snap out of it.”

10. “You’re not depressed, you’re just… sad.”

    My own grandmother said that to me when I told her that I was depressed.

11. “You just need to [insert some bullshit here].”

12. “Have you tried exercise?” Yes, Brenda, I work out every day and I’m still fucking depressed, so how about you STFU.

13. Roll your eyes

    Be present but absent-minded

14. “You’re just not getting enough sun/vitamins/exercise!”

    Yeah I am glad yoga and sunning your butthole worked for *you* but that is not universal

15. You just need to exercise.

16. “But there are so many things to be happy about!”

17. Just think positively!

18. Crying means you’re weak

19. “You’re being selfish”