Not sure if I want to go- I wouldn’t consider myself friends with the host, she’s a nice classmate but I don’t really know her that well. One of my close friends is going since she’s close with the host, but I don’t want to cling to her and ruin her experience since she knows other people there. I do have social anxiety and I feel like this would be a good way to get out of my comfort zone, however, at the same time I feel like I wouldn’t enjoy it. Booze does help, but I don’t really want to get plastered there since it’s an unfamiliar environment. Plus, it’s a hefty fee for an open bar and I don’t know that it’s worth it (broke college student here) for someone I don’t know all that well. Is that selfish?
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Maybe go for just a little while?
If you aren’t close with the host, and your friend is not depending on you in any way, then I don’t see it as inconsiderate at all to not go. Not least as you wish to make a wise decision with your money, which is not selfish but.. wise.
As you say, maybe it would be healthy to go, in terms of facing your fears. But if you’re in college I’m guessing there will be other opportunities for that, so I wouldn’t put too much value in this party.
The only risk I see is if you are underrating the value of your attendance for the host, as it’s their birthday. But if you’re sure you’re not close, then all good!