Ok so I’m really confused, people usually tell me that I’m really attractive (context, I’m a 21 yo gay guy and also relatively tall) but whenever I’m at the club no one seems to want to flirt with me (they don’t even look at me so I get really sad and my self-esteem plummets since I can be really insecure) but my friends told me that they think it’s because people might find me intimidating and I could “reject” them (they say I seem “untouchable” even though I’m a really nice person). But do you think that’s true? That people can be afraid of that? Cause according to my logic if I was somehow attractive I feel like people would at least stare or something. So I just feel like I’m ugly (specially when drunk).
P.s. sometimes I can have a heavy resting bitch face although it’s not on purpose.
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Awww I’d flirt with you at the club ❤️❤️❤️
> I get really sad and my self-esteem plummets since I can be really insecure)
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>sometimes I can have a heavy resting bitch face although it’s not on purpose.
If your body language and facial expressions show that you aren’t open to being talked to, most people will assume you aren’t interested in them. It kinda comes off like a self fulfilling prophecy where you get bummed out & then that just makes you come off as even more unapproachable. Work on feeling more at ease & just enjoying the moment.
A big thing to successfully clubbing & partying is to go with no explicit goals in mind except just having a good time. Getting lucky is optional, and from my own experience the less you think about it, the more likely someone will want to go talk to you.