Married folks: if you took your partner’s name- how long did it take for your married name to feel like yours?

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1. It took me about six months to sign the right name consistently.

2. Been 4 years and it’s still at like 90% normal. In my culture people have more than one last name, I had my mom’s and my dad’s and now have my mom’s and my husband’s. It would feel much weirder to get rid of my entire last name.

3. It still sounds weird after a year and a half.

4. I was ok signing my new name, but after a year since the name change, I still haven’t quite grasped that it’s my name now.

   I just started a new job and filling out all the forms and seeing the new email, and I’m like “oh yeah, that is my name now”

   This is also my third last name (I was married once before so went from maiden name to 1st married name to this one) so that may be part of it too.

5. Been married almost 22 years. Love the man hate the name. I still think it’s weird when people say it and wish I hadn’t changed it.

6. Been married a year and a half and I still haven’t legally changed my last name! I changed my last name on fb but still have my maiden name on all of my legal documents lol! Too lazy to change it officially and idc and neither does my husband

7. It has always felt more like mine than my maiden name ever did.

8. Pretty quickly, I wasn’t super attached to my old name.

9. I said to my wife either take my name or don’t but whatever you do don’t fucking hyphenate

   3 guesses what she did

10. I liked his last name better and it flowed better so right away

11. One minute..I hated my name before I married him..

12. I took my husband’s name to replace my surname completely, which is not the most common option in my country. It was unexpectedly easy to get used to it, even though I use my name a lot during work (I make a lot of phone calls and introduce myself, and I also write a lot of emails). It took me 1-2 weeks to feel like my name, it got automatic very easily. However, the signature took a longer time to master and even a year later I started writing my previous surname in my signature a few times haha.

13. About a year, but I think having a job where I had to sign, initial, and/or type my name helped.

14. Took my exes name and it felt like mine after about a year. Now I like it so much I don’t want to change it post-divorce, even if I was married again.

15. A year or two for it to feel 100% mine all the time. Now my maiden name feels a little foreign.