If you had a time machine and if you saw your mom at an age before you were born, what would you ask or tell her?

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1. I’d tell her not to have kids

2. Just don’t. You can’t, and your kids don’t deserve it

3. Tell her what companies to invest him and then we’d be rich in the now

4. Any man but him (father)

5. Go to therapy. Make your husband go to therapy.

6. I’d ask her about her grief when she lost her mother at 17 so I could have understood her grief, in hopes it would better prepare me for her death at the same age for myself. But ultimately, I’d just want to know her as a person.

7. Do not date my father

8. Don’t have kids young. Live your life and be free.

9. Not to marry my dad. I tell her to marry the man she really loved. Someone we know who lived in my hometown

10. Do not marry my father. Go to therapy. Go back to university and get your degree. Don’t give up your career to be a mother. It doesn’t make you happy.

11. Live YOUR life for yourself. Have fun, find who you are, and say NO to dumb men!

12. Stop smoking before you get pregnant

13. To go to therapy and work through her trauma before having kids

14. I’d want to tell her that she’ll be an excellent mother, and that her kids will adore her. I think that she doubts herself too much.

15. Don’t have a kid. You may think you want one but a few months later you’ll be over it and leave.

16. Don’t go to her friend’s sleepover when she’s 12

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18. That she is worthy of love and respect and to honour herself.

19. Don’t marry him.

20. Never have children.

21. I’d tell her not to marry my dad. They are not compatible on any level. And keep mentioning that they stayed together for me.

    Also, I’d tell her to prioritise her career.

22. don’t have sex with (insert bio dad i’ve never mets name)

23. Don’t move across the country to be with my dad, he’s not going to stay anyways and you’ll be alone in a place with no family

24. I’d tell my mo to spend more time with her mom and dad. They pass away young and she really misses them.

    And then invest in Amazon, Microsoft and Apple. Lol

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26. Don’t have me. Run away from my would be dad before sex anything.

27. Don’t have kids

28. 🤓 why “ not to have kids” came to the highest advices? 😅 just curious

29. Introduce myself as a wise shaman. Tell her stuff only she knows. Then tell her to buy stocks in Microsoft, apple, amazon, bitcoin. Divest out of them. Buy SF, NY houses hire asset manager and let them take care of the real estates. Get out of S&P 2020-21. I’d probably just make my mom a financial mogul.

30. Damn, I should I feel better, or worse, that everyone beat me to exactly what I was going to say. 1, don’t date/marry my father 2, don’t have children. Cue existential crisis. Lol

31. Dont get married this young

32. Disclaimer: I’m a guy but I’d like to answer this.

    I’d ask her hopes and dreams. I would then like to return to my time and as an adult be able to fulfil them for her. I lost her 7.5 years ago

33. Don’t have that baby — you’re too young. (She got pregnant with me at 17.)

    It wasn’t your fault. (She was molested by her aunt’s husband.)

    Say “no” to drugs. (She’s now a homeless drug addict out somewhere wandering the streets.)

34. Nothing, I’d like her to stay exactly as she is.

35. Go to therapy before you have kids

36. I would urge her to put more serious thought into the abortion people were recommending to her instead of rejecting the idea outright. She would be dealing with fewer debilitating chronic health issues now, and I would be dealing with none. She would have had more opportunities for a better life, and been in a better position to get out of an abusive marriage sooner and give her older child the attention and enrichment she needed.

    In the end I have had to learn to respect her decision and not resent it despite living in pain and illness, because I am 100% for reproductive freedom and against eugenics. But I would still encourage her to put more thought into the decision than her description of that time suggests.

    (Oh, and also to take that Federal job she was offered right out of high school instead of letting her mother talk her out of moving to Washington. She could have had such a comfortable retirement by now!)

37. What does she want in life?