TLDR: I’m a over-thinker and I put a lot of effort in my relationship but I feel uneasy with my partner. I need help.
Started dating in October and has been going great till the past month. We’re both young but we’re mature. At the start of our relationship it was engaging and fun. We both looked out for each other. The past two weeks we have been hanging out and having fun but some drama went down with his parents. His keys and phone were taken away. He became suicidal and had a lot of issues. I was there for him and helped him with everything. I would check in on him constantly but not too much to the point it was annoying. I would let him have space as well. He got his keys and phone back and is back to normal. We hanged out recently and had fun though in his free time he hangs out with his friends and stuff. I don’t have anyone to hang with like he does so I’m stuck just thinking about when I’ll be able to hang out with him again. I overthink so much, “whats he up to” and “he hasn’t responded to my text yet.” I wondered if I had a family issue would he look out for me like I did. He’s always unsure of himself and says he has to think about stuff which takes a bit. It’s honestly annoying. I feel like I have no right to complain about anything since he says “I don’t want issues anymore, idk if I can take it.” So I’ve been acting positive and loving him more. I don’t feel the same from him. He does love me but he doesn’t show it like I do. Should I talk to him about how I feel right now or will this just be an issue? I don’t wanna cause issues since it could go bad. He says a relationship shouldn’t have a lot of issues but at the start of our relationship there was issues from him. Am I not allowed to complain? I always have to engage in conversation and ask questions. I want him to do that too, I just feel dependent.
He had a drug problem in the past and has trouble with school. He’s pretty busy. We go out to hang and bike too. He started to smoke cigarettes again and he’s honest with me and told me he did smoke a cigarette which is a good thing. I don’t do any addicting drugs so I’m not a fan. I’m just unsure if he’s right for me. I love him a lot but he doesn’t seem to show he cares. I don’t understand. Should I talk to him despite him not like it?