I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We’ve had issues in the past that have caused me to feel insecure now.
Specifically when he goes to the bathroom. I feel like he takes 20 minutes because he is talking to other girls or is doing something deceiving.
I don’t say anything because I don’t want to make him feel like I’m being controlling, but it would feel good to get some reassurance.
He always tells me I can talk to him about anything, and he’s always nice about it, but I am nervous that I’m being codependent.
My friends tell me “If you can’t trust him then dump him.”
But that feels so extreme to me, I want to work on trusting him and make our relationship better. I know that starts with communication, but I don’t know how to start.
He is in the bathroom right now and it’s been a long time… How can I talk to him about it when he gets out?
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I would just talk about your insecurities to him. You’ve been with him 5 years now this should not be difficult at this point. Your friends are being extreme.
has he given you any reason to think he’s talking to other girls? i don’t want to invalidate you but also sometimes people just take a long time to shit.