The wife and I are contemplating having a three some (mmf if it matters). I am very interested in the idea but I keep getting told “don’t share you’re wife it’ll make the relationship weird” or “you won’t end up being happy with it”. I mean I believe I will enjoy it, but idk. So my question is: Is there some sort of experiment or way to ease into a three some? Like something to dip our toes in before we jump in?
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Well take your time and find someone you are cool with if really good make a regular thing. The biggest thing is talk about what each want what they are comfortable with what’s off limits and it could evolve over time just be open honest and have the big conversation that goes over every possibility. Good luck have fun
DONT DO IT !!!
If you do keep us updated 😁
You’re going to have sex with the guy? Because thats what mmf means
If you’re into it and think you won’t feel jealousy, don’t listen to others. Only you and your wife knows.
Most likely, the people telling you not to do it are also the kind that have no problem with mff, they just think it’s normal for men to sleep with multiple women but that women must sleep with only one men.
A stepping stone would be to get someone else to watch you be intimate with your wife without being involved.
Hire a sex worker, and don’t have actual sex. Just get naked and do some oral and heavy petting.
Ask yourself first can you really handle the reality of another guy fucking and cuming in ur wife alot of giys think they can handle it and when it does happen they cant take it.
Many.
Post this to swingers and we’ll give you the scoop.
Curiosity killed the cat. Just sayin’ 🤣
You and your wife will need to communicate everything in your mind from expectations to desires and have the understanding that this is for the both of you and not just for one’s pleasure.
If the three of you can do this and understand that it’s purely for everyone’s physical enjoyment then it’ll be much easier. Scary part of any 3some or including another person into your intimacy is the possibility of any emotional attachments.
Good luck and hope it works out!?
Maybe the first encounter could just be making out and blow jobs?
I just went right for the full on 3some and didn’t regret it though
But i def read lots on here of people who regret it
Here’s the thing. If you are able to figure out a “try out” of sorts and like it, and then full on do it, you may enjoy it at the moment, but regret it when post-nut clarity hits. Tread carefully.
Yes. My high school gf and I had sex in the same bed as her best friend and boyfriend once. There was no cross interaction between the couples at all, but it was a twin bed (we were all 14 and 15 at the time). So we were literally touching leg to leg, shoulder to shoulder, thigh to thigh with them the entire time. It was extremely hot and the other guy and I got pretty competitive with each other lol. Unfortunately, I found out afterward that it was just an experimental one time thing, and I was the only one interested in doing it again or pushing it more. My ex actually got pissed when I mentioned exploring further with them. Needless to say, that was as close to a threesome/foursome as we got, but I consider it a “pre” experience.
I think that this level of doubts reveal the need to go very slowly in order to ascertain the enjoyment of such a break-the-mold experience.
Maybe having her flirting and/or dancing with a stranger (or a known man) in a public place first.
Get someone who understands and accepts that you’re not 100% sure and could call it off at any time and then go very very slowly. The important thing in my opinion is that you don’t ever acquiesce, if you’re not 100% into it call it off
Fuck in front of another couple? You should join some swingers pages and look around
Yes. Set clear steps/limits and have safe word to de-escalate/pause. Try small steps – like inviting someone home to watch you kiss only, or cinema date with another and heavy petting, or have a naked tea party but no play, or play in front of another without them joining, or invite someone only to give you a massage or oral. See how you feel with each step and then try another.
…I think it’s called a flirtatious dinner.
Seeing your wife flirting with a guy would defo give you an idea x
Yes, is called soft sex, you go to your area swinger club and ask only for soft sex no penetration involved, the hard part is 1.-find someone interested and 2.-control yourself because when the kisses and petting begins, is hard to stop to the next level.
I have a question, why all the posts in this sub about married couples wanting or experimenting on threesome are with 2 guys 1 girl and not the other way around?
“Closed” swinging, where you get sexy with another couple but only have sex with your spouse, or having someone watch you.
You can try having sex with your wife while she blows someone?
Honestly I do not get why ppl want this.
I think getting to know someone first (with lots of communication) before jumping into …Fantasies aren’t reality and can be deceptive. Good luck!
A step in between is: while you are having sex talk about previous sexual experiences with others. Get as graphic and detail as possible. How much you enjoyed it, how much you liked it, all the dirty things you did. How the man was bigger and could go longer. Or how the woman was better in some ways.
This is a good test to deal with your insecurities and can be hot as hell.
You can take turns. You can also discuss fantasies to be performed during future threesome.
You should get an indication on how the dynamic might be.
Next step would be to go to a swingers club and have sex just between you two but in a public setting.
Next get someone involved in a very limited capacity. Watching or only performing oral etc