Hello,
I’m 24M, living in NYC and consider myself to be extroverted. I have a solid friend circle and great roommates. However, since the start of this winter season, I feel like I’m not getting the most of my life. I love this city and every time I go out, I have such a great time that I never want it to end. Ideally, I’d like to go out 4-5 times a week: whether that means hobbies, drinking, biking, clubbing, brunches, dates, etc. These days, I’m going out at most once a week and it’s been giving me a lot of anxiety. I feel like I’m falling behind and losing out on my 20s. I take initiative and set up plans all the time, but none of my friends are nearly as extroverted as I am nor do they match my energy. I can’t help but feel stuck and every night I’m at home, I feel lonely and alone. I don’t want to always be the one making plans or chasing people. Most of my friends are in relationships as well, which keeps them occupied. I’m actively trying to date, but I want to maximize my social life without having to rely on a partner. Appreciate any insight.
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I feel like I’m losing out on my teenage years sometimes..
Not exactly sure how to help but when I’m at home I try to call up a friend to chat bc sometimes it’s harder for them to get out of the house but they still love to chat.
If possible, I’d join a club or try out a new hobby.
It’s helpful to have a consistent meetup with people that you don’t have to have the pressure of planning.