Hello im a guy, I never really had a girlfriend or anything, now I have a girlfriend and it’s gonna be my first time.
Im nervous since she got experience and I don’t want to let her down.
Can I have some tips how to please her and how to last longer.

Thank you all.

6 comments

  2. Communicate, polititely of course. Communication can be verbal or non-verbal (e.g. moans, grunts, etc.). Ask if what you’re doing feels good. Even ask her to show you what feels good. Communicate back what’s feeling good for you. Even show her if she’s not figuring it out on her own.

    Don’t worry too much about not lasting too long. Most women don’t orgasm by penis in vagina sex anyway. Just be willing to help her cum if you cum first.

    If you cum faster than the two of you prefer, here are some things that can help. Be up for a second or third round. It usually takes me longer another round immediately after orgasm. Or, let your partner know your close and, then, switch things up so you’re servicing her until you’ve cooled down; then get back at it. Or, you can trying masterbating more frequently throughout the week. Personally, this increases my stamina. Or, if it’s really really a problem, SSRIs delay ejaculation for some men. In fact, when I treat my anxiety with an SSRI, the therapeutic dose for treating the anxiety causes me the opposite problem: anywhere from 45min to 2hrs to giving up before I cum. So, I’d advised starting with lowest dose, maybe even halves or quarters.

    The most important advice: this is about you and your partner having fun, albeit with your sex parts. But emphasis is on *fun*. This is much easier said than done when it’s your first time, but relax, have fun, and communicate so she has fun too. The more experience you have, the more you’ll be able to relax and be confident and, as a result, the more fun you and your partners will have.

    Rooting for you, boss!

  3. Listen to her. Ask her what she likes. Have fun. Don’t be silent and do tell her when it feels or sounds good.

    Tell her it’s your first time. Some people will be weird and run off. Almost all will be understanding or even into “showing you the ropes”.

    Don’t copy anything from porn. Don’t go hitting, smacking, biting, choking, whatever …. just be honest and kind and have fun.

  4. My honest advice would be to not overthink it, if possible don’t even think about anything when you’re doing it.

    Just enjoy the moment and make her feel sexy with your words and actions, if you start thinking of all the techniques and strategies that people give you on the internet you’re not even going to enjoy it, you’ll treat it like a performance and I can tell you from experience that it will end up badly (either premature ejaculation or no boner, both happened to me).

    Sex is complicated but you can figure it out together, best of luck 😉

  5. You’re going to be just fine! This will be fun for you both, don’t be afraid to enjoy yourself. I assume she knows it’s your first time, so she will probably be thinking of ways to make it special for you too. You’ll be able to tell what she likes by paying attention to her responses to whatever you’re doing. You’ve got this.

  6. Find her clit and don’t neglect it. Look up stimulating clits and learn some different finger techniques. Try advice pieces rather than just porn alone though. Porn sent my man on the wrong track at first with me haha. Honestly though just be honest with her and don’t be too worried if the first time is a bit awkward. It gets better. Especially if you care to learn what makes her get off as you explore each other

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