I don’t know if I’ll go, but pressing the “attend” button was a struggle. I’m trying to force myself to meet people in real life. It’s always been a struggle for me to talk and mingle with people. I don’t know how it will go. What advice do you have when talking to strangers?

3 comments

  1. Starting with simple questions about weather or about how did they foud the event and so on. At least that I would do.

  2. It’s not as big a deal as it seems!

    Let’s calibrate your expectations. You’ve been out of society for quite awhile, it sounds like. Your social skills are very rusty or not-yet-activated. So, you’re probably not going to show up and be the life of the party. You’ll probably be kind of withdrawn.

    Would you come home and be disappointed that you were withdrawn? It sounds like you might. And yet, at this stage, it’s almost inevitable, barring a fluke.

    From the perspective of other people, there are a lot of shy and withdrawn people in the world. People won’t be shocked, or disappointed. If they meet other people, they’ve met other withdrawn people. It wasn’t uncommon even before tech took over our lives, and it’s far more common now.

    So, you go… you are kind of withdrawn, but the outgoing people will probably chat with you a bit, and it sounds like you’ll respond. Overall the chatty people will probably spend more time chatting with each other, as they tend to do. But they won’t feel negatively about you, because the way you are is not unusual. (Again, their can be a fluke person who really doesn’t get it, but this is very unlikely and they are not important.)

    This is just the first step. It’s a slow process. And that’s completely fine.

  3. Ask about other fun events that they attended. You may be able to find other groups that fit your idea of fun/friendly people.

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