We (19M/18F) just started college and met 6 months ago. We both have a scholarship, which is for first-gen/low income students. So there’s a lot of POC and people with similar backgrounds. It’s nice to have this group because our school is very affluent and white.
Over the summer, our group did a 3 week program where we lived in the same dorm, and people grew really close. For some reason, my girlfriend and another friend of mine feel excluded from the “inner circle”.
They all study together, hang out with each other, travel back home together. We might be invited to a birthday party, but it feels like formalities, and we generally feel less welcome.
I could list a bunch of possible reasons: GF and I started dating early in the summer, and maybe people are turned off by couples. Maybe they feel we’re the “wrong type” of Hispanic. Some of them literally use words like “white sympathizers”. This isn’t all of them though. Anyway we show up to every invite, we’re friendly, but the 3 of us just feel kinda excluded? And I dunno, I hang out mostly with my GF and I can tell she’s kinda sad about not having a large friend group.
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Sometimes we make people feel not welcomed unconsciously
Either bring it to the groups attention to see was it a misunderstanding or talk to your girlfriend and the other person